How to squirt during sex or solo play how to make a female squirt, according to experts
Bouncing Spoon Position – This one is similar to the Pearly Gates position as you won’t be able to thrust much. This means that she can control how she feels you, whether it’s an in-and-out motion she wants, a grinding motion, or a combination of both. This way she can control the depth, speed, and pressure on her G Spot more. He explains exactly what you need to do to make your partner squirt (step-by-step). If you can’t listen to it now, then I highly recommend that you save this podcast so you can listen to it later. As your fingers are pressed against her G Spot, you will be able to provide massive amounts of pressure to it.
Sex and arousal can put extra pressure on your bladder and urethra. Combined with weak pelvic floor muscles, or an overactive bladder, this could lead to some leaks — which, again, are different from squirting. Per a 2013 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, anywhere from 10% to 54% of women can experience squirting. The volume of fluid can vary widely—ranging from small, barely noticeable amounts to a full-on gush—so there is variability in how women define and report their experience in their sex lives.
It’s usually clear, comes in a gush or stream, and doesn’t smell like pee. Squirting isn’t just about the physical act—it’s a total mind-body thing. If she’s worried about making a mess, tense, or just not fully in the moment, her brain’s going to hit the brakes hard. The prefrontal cortex, which is all about control, can literally override those natural reflexes, stopping the whole flood before it even starts. Not all women have experienced squirting, but that doesn’t mean they can’t.
Gently spread her legs wide, excite and stimulate the A-spot, which is located deeper inside the vagina than the G-spot, on the front upper wall. Slowly and carefully insert your well-lubricated index finger, being mindful of her comfort. Once you’ve reached the desired area, gently make circular motions with the pad of your finger, always paying attention to her feedback and respecting her pace. Open communication throughout is essential to ensure her enjoyment and comfort. When a woman squirts, the fluid comes from her bladder and may contain tiny amounts of pee.
When asked why, women are significantly more likely to give reasons such as lack of interest and discomfort with their body. You would want to make sure that the whole process of making a woman squirt is as comfortable as it can get. So, for that, using lubricants will be a key thing. The basic thing would be to use a water-based lubricant rather than a silicone-based one as it will be better for the skin. “Just pressing the firm tip of your tongue will feel different than using the wide padded surface,” Tanner says. You can alternate which part you’re using, “and experiment with pressing and releasing around the [clitoris] area,” Dr. O’Reilly says.
Let’s go back to the female sexual anatomy for a sec. The G-spot and Skene’s Gland is right beside her bladder. For this technique, you only need to press the G-spot the same you would press a button. Experiment with the pressure and pace to fully know what works best for your girl.
Third, you are just not letting it out at the climax point. Remember that your fingers, or the penis/toys, might be blocking the fluid to come out. It can turn off your girl to a point that she might not agree for it ever in the future. For the latter, start by finding the reason behind it.
There’s nothing wrong with squirting, and there’s nothing wrong with not. Approach it with a sense of open-minded fun, not obligation or stigmatisation. They also detected additional substances which you wouldn’t usually expect to be present in a puddle of piddle. One of these was prostate-specific antigen, or PSA. These women had reported experiencing female ejaculation during intercourse. Not everyone releases the same amount, but for some women, the bladder stores larger quantities of fluid.
This warm-up technique builds blood flow and arousal, making her crave more. Keep an eye on her reactions; as you stimulate her, she’ll be begging for you to take it further. Watch the video tutorialAlright, this one’s super simple. Just relax your hand and cover (or cup) her whole vulva—no rushing. Let your hand rest there, taking deep breaths with her to slow things down and get you both in sync.
The ability to experience multiple orgasms isn’t tied to age or how much sexual experience she has—it’s all about knowing her body and feeling comfortable. For older women, hormonal changes like menopause can shift how pleasure is experienced, but that doesn’t mean it’s off the table. Many women report becoming more confident and multi-orgasmic as they age because they’re more in tune with their desires and less inhibited by societal expectations. Start by having an open and honest conversation with your partner about your desire to explore this experience.